When I think of mother’s day I imagine breakfast in bed, lovingly made by a husband and child. A small gift, a clumsy but adorable handmade card and bunch of flowers. This must just be imprinted on me from a lifetime of television and mass advertising…because three years into motherhood and my day has never looked like this, and never will.
As a two mum family, I have to share mother’s day with my wife. Did that come across as a little selfish? Yes? Well, yeah, that’s sort of how I feel.
Being a mum is hard work. Bloody hard work. It is sacrifice. It is digging deep to find strength and resilience and patience that you didn’t know you possessed. To sum up motherhood in one word, it is exhausting. That is the very reason why Mother’s Day is so special.
Yes, it is a commercialised holiday. But of course it doesn’t have to be about gifts or spending money. As the saying goes, ‘it’s the thought that counts’. In this case I couldn’t agree more. It is a day to pause and recognise mums for all that they do. A day to say thank you. A reminder to say ‘I love you mum’. A day to turn the spotlight on mum and make her feel special.
So yes, sharing Mother’s Day with my wife means it is never just about me as a mum. But that’s ok. It is a small price to pay for getting to raise a child hand in hand with another mother. In fact, it is an absolute privilege to live with, and parent alongside, such a beautiful mum. A true mumma bear. A fierce protector. A strong role model. An incredibly selfless, caring and thoughtful women I get to share this motherhood journey with.
What does a shared Mother’s Day look like? For us, it means neither of us get a sleep in or breakfast in bed – unless we make it ourselves of course. It means each of us trying to steal away time with our three-year-old in the lead up to create that clumsy but adorable hand made card. It means taking the time to organise flowers or a gift or some special surprise for the other one on the toddlers’ behalf. Like any other day, it is about compromise.
As our little one grows older I am sure we can look forward to a Mother’s Day sleep in or a cooked breakfast. For now it usually looks like a lovely little brunch at our favourite café, or a family bbq. This year? I will be hoping for a sunny day, a family walk along the water and a meal we can enjoy creating and eating together.
While I whinge about having to share the adoration, I am incredibly grateful to be celebrating Mother’s Day at all. Mother’s Day hits a really sensitive spot for me. I am actually tearing up now as I type. It is at this time of year, more than any other day, that as an IVF mumma I reflect on how incredibly lucky and grateful I am that I get to call myself a mum. It is gut wrenchingly hard work and rewarding beyond words.
To all the mum’s out there, you are so incredibly lucky. Happy Mother’s Day, whatever your day looks like ❤.
If you are wondering about what we would each love to unwrap on Mother's Day...here are our personal edits...
Claire's picks are (above): Blue Luxor glass vase by Marmoset Found $49, Diffuser Oil in Joy DeVour by Black Blaze $30, Body Scrub by Ena $33, Brass Earrings by Happy in Finland $55 and Conversation Starter Fortune Cookies by Journey of Something $19.
As for myself, my hot picks are (below): Brass Candle/Incense Holder by Black Blaze $45, Hand + Body Lotion by Ena $36, Delphine Tufted Cushion by Sage x Clare $110, A Conical Flask Candle by Alchemy Produx $43 and the Protea Bunch Fine Art Print by Paula Zeitlein $109